Sometimes you cope well and get on with life as normal. Then there are the bad days. The hormone heavy days. The days when bumps and babies are everywhere and your sadness is simply overwhelming.
Or there are days when you are feeling strong, positive and on the right track and then out of nowhere you get a phone call, open Facebook or see a friend and something hits you left of field that almost knocks you out cold.
There are triggers to remind you of your situation that evoke pain and sadness everywhere, everyday. Some days you are prepared, some days you cope better than others.
Common triggers are:
Your period arriving
Facebook pregnancy announcements or scans
Invites to baby showers
Close family members getting pregnant
Mummies who were pregnant with you the first time getting pregnant
Questions from your little one
Obtrusive questions from strangers about your family situation
Milestone form your little one, starting school, moving out of the nusery room etc
Storing away now unused baby equipment or tiny baby clothes
Soap characters getting pregnant!
Hearing complaints from Mummies with lots of children about how hard it is
Watching some shout at or be cruel to a little one
Watching your little one play on their own
Watching friends’ children play with their siblings
Looking back at photographs of your little one as a baby
When your little one doesn’t want to be held or to cuddle when you need it
Realising every moment with your little one might be your last
Thinking about your little one possibly being on their own when you are gone
The optimism of others when you find it hard to stay positive
Phantom feelings of pregnancy
Some sound familiar? Do you have any other triggers that you would like to share and add to this list? Tell us you story to help others.