So those who know me well, probably won’t be surprised to learn that I’ve started writing another book, which is again about Secondary Infertility, but is more of a guide and practical support for those suffering and for those around someone suffering. It will hopefully be an easy to digest ‘friend’ to anyone wanting to understand more about their situation and on realising it is a ‘condition’, the content will also hopefully make them feel empowered and a little more at peace.
In researching this new book, I have been all over the blogs and websites recently and what has struck me is that whilst my babies are now 2, nothing has changed. There are new women every day, bravely joining blogs and forums asking the same questions, feeling the same fear and wanting to know more information. I never really thought the problem had or would go away, but neither had I given it much thought since I had stopped visiting the sites, so this came as somewhat of a surprise. And it saddened me.
I am currently a ‘text buddy’ to four girls, all going through fertility difficulties, all with different stories and situations, but all share the same pain. And all have the same thirst for knowledge, hunger for understanding and desperate need of support. The feeling of helplessness I often feel does quite bother me and I have an appreciation of my close friends and family who clearly would have had the same feelings in supporting me on my journey.
And so, the only thing I can do is to show understanding and so I thought I’d share another chapter from More Love To Give – An IVF Memoir, and enlighten them, and anyone else in a similar boat, that those feelings they have are normal and it’s OK to feel that way. This chapter describes the first group meeting we attended before any treatment started and gives an insight into how the emotions make your brain run riot in your head and your heart bang twice as loud as I’m sure it should!
My putting the proverbial pen to paper a second time isn’t that I’ve given up on this first book. Far from it. I’m bloody determined to get it published but have been a little sidetracked in recent months. The second book is a ‘buddy’ for the first, a partner, a support to help it get to it’s final destination. And sometimes, that’s all any of us can be.
I hope you enjoy x